Saturday, November 04, 2006

Hijab Stories 4: My Friend's Hijab Story

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At 11/04/2006 07:54:00 PM , Anonymous Hyam said...


Asalaam Alaykum,

For many years before wearing hijab, I struggled trying to convince myself but always worried about what others would think. In prayer, I use to say, "ya ALLAH, please let me fear YOU and not those who stare and judge me for wearing it."

Many times I would be at Islamic gatherings and there would be Muslims who would not return my salaam thinking I was unworthy because I didn't wear hijab.

Most of the time at Islamic classes, the speakers (men & women) would lecture on hijab and the message was delivered with anger while trying to shame me and others to wear it. I use to leave with a feeling that I could never be like them and didn't want to, so why bother...if anything they pushed me away from my DEEN. Of course that didn't last long because of the yearning feeling to learn more and get closer to ALLAH!

In 2000, I went to a dars/class and the speaker was talking about Amana/trust. She never mentioned hijab or even the woman's role. I cannot come close to paraphrasing her powerful and beautiful words. There were about 20 women in the class but I felt like she was just talking to me. Not in a negative way at all.

She said that ALLAH trusted us with our bodies and minds, healthy ones at that. With children and even the material things we have are all HIS blessings... but are we trustworthy? These things don't really belong to is an illusion we think we own all came from ALLAH!! and HE can take it back at any given moment but is merely trusting us with them...

Have we betrayed HIM ? have we been stealing from HIM? We use what HE gives us everyday without a second thought yet we don't give much or anything in return....

Being trustworthy has always been very important to me. When my boys were younger, I don't think I ever was physical with them unless they lied. So when the speaker kept mentioning trust, i thought I had that one down but I didn't. I knew then and there that it didn't matter that others could trust me because I failed HIM...

I wore hijab the next day proudly and because I choose to. Especially in the US, there is a satisfaction in wearing it that is indescribable in words. I refuse to respond negatively anytime anyone stares or tries to intimidate me. No one can ever take that connection I have with HIM and the joy in pleasing HIM.

I have such great love and respect for that speaker. She is so fortunate to be able to delivery ALLAH's message to others in a manner where people want to listen. MashALLAH to think of the agir/good deeds she has accumulated.

Please read my following dua with an open heart and wish it for yourself and others....with compassion for one other, we could do so much more for ourselves, our fellow Muslims and our DEEN.

May ALLAH (subhanu wa ta'alla) guide us all to become righteous Muslims. May HE give those with knowledge the ability to deliver HIS words with kindness. and May HE give us all an open mind to accept it.

Fi aman ALLAH,

At 11/04/2006 08:34:00 PM , Anonymous LivingHalal said...

Sister Hiyam,

This is exactly what we are trying to find out, the deep reasoning for why wearing and why not.

We tend to address symptoms (beard on face, hijab on head) but forget to address the root causes of why we practice Islam or why not. It was really insightful to learn about how the speaker talked about Amana/Trust and how that led you to change your outward behavior. Because she has awakened the heart and addressed the root cause: we worship Allah because He is the only one worthy to be worshipped.

Indeed, as the Prophet (SAW) said, "Beware! There is a piece of flesh in the body if it becomes good (reformed) the whole body becomes good but if it gets spoilt the whole body gets spoilt and that is the heart." -collected by Bukhari

At 11/12/2006 07:46:00 AM , Anonymous want to be a solehah daughter said...

salam sisters,

thank you so much sister Hyam for the great story...its really touched my heart..emm i have a different situation where my mum does not allowed me to wear hijab..she afraid that i'm not ready yet and not serious about wearing it for the rest of my life...she only wears hijab during my younger brother birth,so its quite hard for her to accept me going to wear hijab at my teens age...we really had a hard time when i first wear hijab...its really sad those moments...i do take it serious to keep my aurah and i'm really grateful to ALLAH S.W.T that i have so many good friends to guide me and support,she slowly accept me for what i am....i'm so much happier now...MAY ALLAH BLESS US..


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